There are many ways you can start trying to get your boyfriend (or partner) to propose. These can range from sneaky, subliminal, and psychological all the way to just have a direct conversation about if you two are ready for marriage. Then there is what my mom says… that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. (There is definitely some truth to this, he put a ring on my finger a year and a half in).
Whatever your choice of method is, here are 12 ideas on how to get him to propose.
We’ll start with the not-so-direct method first and work our way up (not all of these are meant to be taken seriously…. unless 🤫)
Subliminal / Psychological Ways You Can Drop Hints
These subliminal/psychological hints may go over his head, but his subconscious could definitely pick up on them
Use Targeted Ads To Your Advantage
We all know how annoying target ads can be. But, you can make these targeted ads work for you. Just take his phone and search up a bunch of wedding-related items such as rings, venues, dresses, etc. Don’t forget to accept the cookies on any website you search! This way he should start seeing ads pop of for wedding stuff and it could give him ~some ideas~
Sign Him Up For A Mailing List
If you can’t seem to find a time to search up wedding-related stuff on his phone, try signing him up for a mailing list instead. This way wedding-related emails will go straight to his inbox! Try signing him up for WeddingWire or your favorite local jewelry store.
Hang out with your Married Friends
Hanging out with your married friends is always a good idea. There might be some peer pressure involved, but seeing the way his close married friends act around each other may cause him to start thinking more about marriage.
“When he is around couples who have made the ultimate commitment to each other, he will start to envision doing the same with you. Your married friends will show him that being married has its ups and downs, but at the end of the day, their commitment to each other is what’s most important.”
Give Him Some Space
Distance does make the heart grow fonder. Maybe plan a weekend trip with your friends and spend some time apart! Things can start to feel mundane if you are together 24/7, so give him some time to miss you! Take this advice from Ariana Grande, who also just got married recently (so you know it works):
“I can’t really miss you if I’m with you
And when I miss you, it’ll change the way I kiss you
Baby, you know time apart is beneficial
It’s like I’m the universe and you’ll be NASA”
– Ariana Grande, “NASA”
Become “Wifey” Material
I don’t actually mean “wifey material” per say, but just start acting more mature in general. This could go for either partner as well. Marriage is a big commitment, and you want him (or your partner) to know that you’re ready. Take on more responsibilities, be your own person with your own interests, work on your communication skills, etc. Show him/them that you are ready and willing to settle down and be committed.
More Direct Ways Of Getting Him To Propose
All jokes aside with the first half, it is important to actually talk about marriage with each other.
Start Discussing Your Future Goals With Him/Them
It’s so important in a long-term relationship to make sure you’re on the same page with each other. Do your 5 year and 10-year goals aline? If you don’t know what your future goals are for yourself, maybe take a minute to ask yourself these questions and write them down: Where do I want to be in 5 years? What do I want my career to look like? How do I want my life to be different than it is now? What do I need to start or stop doing to make these goals happen? Do I want to be married by then? Do I want kids? Where Do I want to live?
After you’ve thought about this yourself, ask your partner to also think of these. Make sure you can see a life together in the future, and not just see one, but make sure you can’t see your life without them in the future.
Ask Them How They Feel About Marriage
This is just an honest question, but it will make sure you are on the same page with no room for misinterpretation. Instead of beating around the bush waiting for him to initiate something, you take the initiative and communicate how you feel about marriage and what your expectations are for the relationship.
Start Including Him/Them In Your Major Decisions
If you’re wanting to get married, you’ll have to start including your partner in your major decisions if you don’t already. Start asking his opinion on careers, or including him in financial decisions. This will let him know that you trust him and that you are committed enough to include him in bigger life decisions.
For some couples, this is usually the next step before getting proposed. There seems to be less pressure about moving in together than there is getting proposed. You also learn a lot about a person when living with each other.
If moving in together before marriage isn’t an option for you, consider going on a long vacation. People really show their true colors when they’ve been in the car together for hours on end. Just make sure you can still see yourself with this person when you’ve seen them in their “true form,” so to speak.
Send Him This Article
We have a great article showcasing the best places to propose in Nashville! You can send him the link to give him some ideas.
Cook Your Way To His/Their Heart
Of course, Marry Me Chicken is a great recipe to start with (it’s right in the name). It’s a delicious creamy chicken dish that is perfect for a weeknight dinner. Try out this recipe for Marry Me Chicken from Delish
Another great (and impressive) recipe that takes a bit more time would be Gordon Ramsey’s Beef Wellington. Do it right and he’ll have a ring on it in no time, do it wrong and you’ll be an ‘idiot sandwich.’
If he is more of a sweet tooth, try this super easy skillet cookie! You can replace the homemade cookie dough with store-bought and he/they would never know… Try out this recipe from Just A Taste!
In this article, we learned many ways to try and get your man/partner to propose! All jokes aside, sometimes all it takes is some good ole’ fashioned communication. Sit down and talk to each other to talk about where you see your relationship going in the future.
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