It is so important to keep dating after you’re married for many reasons. Falling into a dating rut once the words “I Do” come out of your mouth is so easy to do. You go from maybe seeing each other every few days to every second of every day, and sometimes keeping the romance alive (which was once a priority when you first started dating) can suddenly slip into the back of our minds.
Although this is an easy habit to fall into, we must keep dating our spouses! It’s important for communication, increasing your friendship, intimacy, and helps your commitment to each other grow stronger and last longer! And no, I’m not just talking about when you both get home from work and throw on “The Office” reruns. I’m talking about when you plan something, are excited about it, and then have your date! Dating doesn’t have to mean just going to a fancy dinner, either. It can mean planning something new to do together! Here are 4 ways to keep dating after you are married.
Make It Something To Look Forward To:
As I said before, just watching TV on the couch together after work does not count as a date. You need something to look forward to, to get the butterflies in your stomach flying around. This requires an amount of effort, but it doesn’t have to be super elaborate! It can be as simple as saying, “Hey, after work on Thursday let’s dress up, go grab sushi and eat ice cream after!” Looking forward to the date gives you something to be excited about all week, and it makes it even more special that you put effort into it. Maybe even take turns planning every week, which brings me to my next point:
Go On Dates Frequently:
Spend quality time together more than once a month. My recommendation would be to go about every week! Obviously, some weeks are busier than others, so you can plan a long weekend to go on every so often with smaller dates in between but get in the habit of going on dates and doing something fun together frequently. If you fit each other into your schedule once a week it is easier to stick to the habit of dating.
Do Something New Together:
Experiencing something new together also creates stronger bonds between you and your significant other. Whether it is going to a painting class or ziplining (at @adventureworks_usa, as pictured below), doing something you have both never done makes it easier to completely be in the present moment. Even on dates, say going to that sushi restaurant mentioned earlier every Thursday, it can be easy to drift off and start thinking about what chores need to be done at the house, or even what a busy day you have the next day. Doing something new together allows you to stay present in the moment with each other and create memories that will stick! I’m not saying that going to your go-to restaurant every Thursday is a bad thing, but don’t confine yourself to doing only that for your dates.
Look Eachother In The Eyes:
During the date, or even after the date (if you know what I mean), don’t forget to look each other in the eyes. Even for just 10 seconds! Science backs this up: “When you make eye contact with your loved one, your body releases oxytocin – otherwise known as the “love hormone (Mad About Marriage).” People say that the eyes are a window into a person’s soul. Looking your partner into the eyes will bring you closer together in the best way possible!
What are you waiting for? Go ahead and plan a date for you and your S.O. using these tips!
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